I was in the shopping centre the other day having lunch and I noticed a woman who I thought was very beautiful. She was alone and eating her lunch near where I was sitting and I had a sudden urge to go over to her and tell her how beautiful I thought she was. Why would I do that? Well for no other reason than to pay someone a compliment. That is all. No ulterior motive. No hoping she would ask me to sit down and join her. I’m happily married and I love my wife very much, so my intention was just to give a compliment, walk away and hopefully leave that woman with a smile on her face and a story to tell her friends.
This wasn’t the first time I have had this urge. I would estimate that over the last few years I have had the same urge a dozen or so times and each time I have not followed through. So why haven’t I enacted upon it? I think the simple answer to that is because I am too embarrassed to do it. If I put myself in her shoes for a second then this is probably what she is thinking.
“This creepy bloke approaches me, tells me I am beautiful and walks away. He probably wants me to follow him and fall into his arms”.
That is so far from the truth but unfortunately I think that is what she would be thinking 9 times out of ten. How good would it be to be able to go up to a complete stranger, pay them a compliment and walk away, expecting nothing in return? Wouldn’t it make the world a better place?
I hear you asking, would I go up to a guy and tell him I thought he was good looking. No way! For two reasons. 1. That. is just too creepy. Dudes telling other dudes they are good looking just doesn’t happen unless you are on Brokeback Mountain. 2. I don’t think dudes are good looking. I think we are repulsive looking and I am yet to meet a dude who is attractive. In fact I struggle to understand what chicks see in us and I can’t blame chicks for hooking up with each other!
The compliments don’t even have to be like my example. You might compliment someone on something they are wearing, or for the way they are treating their kids, or for picking up rubbish off the ground thrown away by somebody else. There are a million reasons you would give someone a compliment. So why doesn’t it happen a lot more?
My question to you, loyal readers at the blog about nothing, would you go up to a complete stranger and give a compliment expecting nothing in return? Have you done this and if so, what were the circumstances and more importantly, what was the reaction? If you wouldn’t approach a complete stranger and give them a compliment, why not? I’m keen to hear your thoughts.